New observations

Hey everyone, sorry for the lack of posting in the weekend, but you know how it goes. But I'm back again and man is it slow at work now! It's been busy the last few weeks as a lot of people are planning to travel and need visas, but apparently everyone is gone now, and there's nobody coming in and barely any phonecalls. Soon half of the office will be on holiday and I'll be here on my ownsie. Think I'll be bringing a radio then, so I'm not sitting here in utter silence. Will be annoying to see everyone leave on holiday, but in September it's my turn, then I'll be in the sun while it'll be probably quite cool here.

So today I decided to catch you up on my observations on online dating so far! I must say I'm finding it fairly hilarious so far. Seems to me online dating is quite popular in the US, so many Americans on there, they are far more likely to find someone on there I think. I have gotten quite a few messages so far, some from friendly fun people from other countries, which is nice as I like talking to interesting people. But random conversations aren't that amusing to tell about, so I'll go right to the weirdoes! So much more fun.
I had a few of them so far, some rather stalky.

nr 1. Forty something New Zealand man who is planning a trip to Belgium and who constantly starts talking to me on the chat window every time I'm on the site: I'm too nice to tell you to feck off, but my utter lack of response should inform you that I am not, and I repeat, NOT interested in you. Find someone your own age! Unless you're Brad Pitt or something (which he is not), you're not going to find a twenty something girl interested in you.

nr 2. Really unattractive Belgian guy who actually lives near me, who has sent me two mails basically nagging me to please reply as he is interested and 'wants to chat', sorry but you kinda repulse me. He looks a bit like how I'd imagine Harry Potter's fat cousin Dudley to look like. Not a compliment. Also seeing how the same person looks at your profile several times a day, is rather awkward.

nr 3. Rude guy, who clearly thinks he's 'all that' and basically offends me at first and then says I'm rather pretty and says let's meet up when I'm in Belgium and have some fun. No thanks, your mail rather made me want to punch you in your sensitive area, let alone I'd want to have some 'fun' with you.




There were more annoying e-mails, but these three jumped out to me most!

Funny about Okcupid is that you can immediately tell if you've been 'dismissed' by someone. You can see who visits your homepage. So it is pretty obvious when you send someone a mail, they look at your profile and not respond, that they are clearly not liking what they see! Harry's cousin is clearly not aware of this.
Also funny is when you choose 'what are you looking for' two of the options are 'casual sex' and 'activity partners'. Someone please enlighten me on what the difference is between those two exactly. Perhaps 'activity partners' sounds slightly less vulgar, but I'm guessing it means the same thing. Or I'm totally mistaken and it means you are actually looking for some hiking buddies.

Dear lord another e-mail from an old person, why is it that guys in their forties always seem to look for girls starting from 18 years old? That seems rather sick to me. I find people my age too old to date 18 year-olds, let alone people in their mid forties. Some strange men on there I can tell you. And from what I heard from the normal people, there are just as many creepy and vulgar girls as men. I should interview some people, and see what their opinion is of the whole thing.

Online dating

Lately I've been reading a lot of blogs where people are trying online dating. I was actually surprised to see how many people give it a go and how many actually meet a decent man on there (and some not so decent). Apparently one out of five couples meet online now, which is quite staggering.

As my new attitude towards life is all about going for things now, I decided to see what all the fuss was about. I figured I could at least get some amusing posts out of it. And as I am currently in an involutarily celibate period, I figured some flirtations and attention from men would do me good, all in the greater good of not letting the hormones drive me crazy. So I made a profile on a free and well-known international dating site, put up one of my more attractive photos and a descriptive profile and thought I'd see what would happen. I did not expect to get responses that quick. I looked around myself a bit too, and noticed that my initial thoughts of those sites being filled with nerdy, unattractive, older people were not correct. (although there's of course quite a few of those) There are a lot of people with high-profile jobs, who actually have very funny and intelligent profiles. I guess unless you have a million hobbies and have a million friends it's not always that easy anymore to find the perfect man or gall. Especially if you have a job that takes up a lot of your time, like mine. The only places for me to meet someone at the moment are the train haha, not very likely, or the pub. And pubs aren't always great for that, lots of guys who want to flirt and/or get in your pants, which can be amusing but not really what you're looking for.

Not that I'm very relationshippy at the moment. A guy will need to seriously woo me for me to even consider getting out there again. But in spite of that, I'm up for some amusement and seeing what's out there, all for the love of the blog eh. I need something to keep you guys entertained! And I'd like to settle down at some point in my life, so moping around about how cupid keeps turning out to be just another flying dwarf, won't amount to anything. I need to get over this unhappiness towards love. Maybe someone will make that happen for me, let's hope.

So what have I found so far on this online dating thing? I've already gotten quite a few messages. To men who are looking for a match, I can give you some advice.
"hey wts up? like ur profile, wanna chat sum time?" is not a good first impression. I have nothing against text language, in texts. If you're looking to get a woman's attention, please use full sentences. You sound like a moron. No matter how hot you look, if you talk like that, you're off to the bin dude.

Also, older men, sorry but this girl is not into the whole sugardaddy thing. Older men freak me out, perhaps it's the result of my mom telling me not to go with strange older men, but I can honestly say it doesn't do it for me. I also look barely 20, so you'd probably look like a pedo dating me. I wouldn't go older than 28, and I'd rather date someone who's slightly younger than a lot older. I don't know why. Although it depends really. My friend's fiance is seven years older than her and he acts a lot younger, and he doesn't look his age either. I guess I don't like the serious, mature type. Having a lot of laughs, doing fun and silly things is something I really want, so I guess I assume people around thirty and over have their feet on the ground more.
So Australian dude living in Holland, slightly balding and slighty overweight, thanks for the compliments but the thought of dating you gives me the heebie jeebies.

Creepy shaved head French dude with hilarious moustache, I'm probably not responding to your mail as well.

There's actually quite a few people out there just looking for someone fun to talk to and just be friendly, which is great. I very much enjoy talking to people all over the world, so if you sound like a normal friendly person, I'll probably respond.

Also, the site is pretty amusing, lots of funny personality test to keep me amused at work. It's not blocked, hooray! So I'm free to explore online dating and have a good laugh with the hilarity that often surrounds the whole ritual about it.

That's it for today, more about my experiment with the online dating world later!